Views differ on Valentine's Day and the need to celebrate it.
View #1: It's a Hallmark holiday - I don't have to do anything.
View #2: I love Valentine's Day! I'm buying a red dress and red shoes and a fun card for my significant other. I'm going to get candy and flowers and get a fancy hotel room for great sex!
View #3: Oh shit, it's Valentine's Day???
View #4: I hate this fucking holiday. Yet another reminder that I'm alone and relationships suck!
View #5: I'll celebrate it, but I really don't know what to do, or what to buy.
Where do you fall?
View #1 has been repeated to me time and time again, usually by married people. If the person is a married woman, she says it because she knows her husband won't do anything, and she'll be disappointed, so she's resigned herself to her fateful lack of romance in her relationship. If the person is a married man, that's just an excuse because he's too lazy, for ONE DAY in the fucking year to step up to the plate and acknowledge and honor his relationship with his spouse. Probably married to the woman making the same comment. Seriously - guys - is it that hard? Is it truly THAT HARD? Buy a card, say I love you, buy one flower at the drugstore on your way home. Ask about her day - Hallmark doesn't have to have anything to do with it if you don't want it to. These same men probably forget their anniversaries and don't buy their wives anything for their birthdays. Pa-thetic.
View #2 - only said by people who are dating. By the second Valentine's Day together with their boyfriend/girlfriend, they probably fall into one of the other categories.
View #3 - single men.
View #4 - single women.
View #5 - Everyone else.
The Kev-head is a romantic at heart. And sometimes he can really surprise me. Yesterday we decided to come home after work, have a nice dinner with the kids and chill out. He did buy me a card, and had the kids make cards for me, too. That was nice. They cleaned the kitchen before I got home, too, so I could cook dinner. This was very nice. We had mimosas while I was cooking dinner, and then while dinner was in the oven we all went into the living room for "cocktail hour." I'm trying to bring this tradition back. Just some time set aside for us to all be in one place, no TV, no phone - just us - chatting about whatever. It was nice. We had dinner together, the boys got their little goody bags of Valentine's candy.
For those of you sharing view #5, I found a how-to for celebrating a meaningful Valentine's Day. If you have a spouse sharing view #1 - print this and leave it out - once a week until next year.
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I could have used this blog on Tuesday....
I know - I was off my game due to the snow....sorry Jimmer - print and save for next year. :)
I love that you are bringing back the tradition of a cocktail hour.
You, your 40-year-old hubby, your 14 year-old, and 9-year-old. Lovely.
It's no wonder we're lifer best friends forever and all that gay stuff.
And there's a lot of gay stuff you two do...Like talking on the phone for hours while you both polish off a bottle of wine...Wait, that's not gay. That's cool...
Horray Wine!!!
Had a nice one in SB. Chardoney I think. I think I need to take Julie and Rebecca's wine tasting class...When is the next class?
Oh. SB = South Bend
Went and saw the Musical "Hairspray." It was really really good.
Cocktail hour is fun! I'm now considering putting in some sort of a minibar in my front/formal living room now. Owen gets mad because I don't buy enough "kids wine." Music lessons were just canceled - maybe I'll have to pick some up on the way home for cocktail hour tonight...
And as for JBrave and I talking on the phone for hours - after 28 years, we don't know how to quit! Couldn't quit if we wanted to. At least we know we can hang up on each other without offending. :)
And Jimmer - it's Chardonnay. :)
you all are gay
*gasp* no?? really??
Pea I miss you - can't wait to see you tomorrow.
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